The Elephant is always trying to protect you from threats to your conscious sense of self. When you’re dealing with an aggressive or contemptuous boss, it responds automatically and puts your body into flight-fight mode, by flooding your body with adrenal-cortisol stress hormones, even though the Rider knows it’s not going to punch the boss out or run away.
Everybody grows up knowing “how to manage.” Down deep the word “manage” means to “be in control” of other people’s behavior.